Its ok to go slow sometimes. We aim to finish our to do list.
Do this, Do that
How about…Do nothing
Just Be!
I dare you.
20
Aug 09
Fresh start to a new day
Live and live on,
Let things flow by,
Swim in the river of life,
Be free and live on.
19
Aug 09
Every Breath is a new beginning
With this in mind. I am setting my goals. Taking everything slowly and bit by bit.
Goal:
1) Reach 200 lbs currently 210 lbs.
My routine eating or what I should
8:00 am -
Oj, 1 slice ww toast, 1 egg
10:00 am -
coffee and bagel (cheat meal) hehe
12:00 pm -
pasta
2:00 pm –
chicken salad
5:00 pm -
Rice or roti with chicken/lentils
8:00 pm – Protien shake after the gym.
Lets keep going.
13
Jul 09
Power of Personal Responsibility
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” – Steve Jobs
You are where ever you are because of the CHOICES you have made. No one else is responsible for the way you feel or act.
In our daily to do list, we allow external elements to effect our life. This happens because we get consumed in managing so many things. By doing so we give up our personal power. For example, an ecstatic drivers cuts you off, you flip them the bird and nasty things on them.
Imagine that for a sec. Some random person just cut you off and you got upset. You will NEVER see that person ever again but yet their action has made you get so upset.
The other day, it was raining outside. I decided to stick my hand out and feel the cool water trickle down my hand. “Get your hands back in” my mother yelled. To her it seamed childish. But on the other hand, rain brings a cool breeze and replenishes the earth.
You have to break out of the victim mentality – “Why does this happen to me?” “I did not do any of this”. The victim mentality always ask “Why me?” instead of “What can I do to make things better”. The victim refuses to take charge of a situation and blames others for their feelings.
If this is you or sometimes feel this way just remember: YOU FEEL THE WAY YOU DO BECAUSE OF YOURSELF. Everything is of your own doing.
See where I am headin’ with this. Sometimes life gets hard. Its supposed to be that way. If it was all candies and rainbows then there would be no fun. The important element is HOW you get out of the rut.
Take action
Get honest with yourself. Ask these questions and journal your answers.
What is bothering you the most right now?
Who are you blaming for that feeling?
How is this effecting your life?
Another great list from the livestrong.com website:
- Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life.
- Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think.
- Accepting that you choose the direction for your life.
- Accepting that you cannot blame others for the choices you have made.
- Tearing down the mask of defense or rationale for why others are responsible for who you are, what has happened to you and what you are bound to become.
- The rational belief that you are responsible for determining who your are, and how your choices affect your life.
- Pointing the finger of responsibility back to yourself and away from others when you are discussing the consequences of your actions.
- Realizing that you determine your feelings about any events or actions addressed to you, no matter how negative they seem.
06
Jul 09
Break through your fears
Doubt. Shame. Insecurity plague us sometimes in our life. Always lurking in the shadows of our heart. It can not be eliminated. Fear is required so we can appreciate the feeling of courage.
This post is served with:
Fear is great only to a certain extent. Once it starts to dictate your actions then it becomes hazardous.
I have a huge fear of failing. Even failing at writing this blog, sadly. Also, failing at my business, failing in relationships or at school. During my early teen years, I allowed my fear to keep me inside my insecure shell. It nurtured me into a shy kid who would allow other people to use me. I came to a point one dark night in December where my soul could not tolerate no more. I had enough of fear. Through the tears of insecurity I realized I had the courage to step outside. To move a bit further of who I am. Thats all it takes. Just small simple steps.
What is fear in the first place? It is a negative experience that sparks in your mind and leads to a feeling in your body. Just lost your job, Can’t ask your boss for a raise? Can’t approach women/men? These are just thoughts. Mental images that you are displaying to the world around you.
How to move past your fear:
Just thoughts: As I mentioned. Most of the fear is based on thoughts. Our human capability of foresight plays out dooms day scenarios that we get stuck in. “If this, then that, if that then I will get XYZ” etc… You have to realize that your fear is just a thought. Write out your fears and with each fear, feel your bodily sensations. For example, in tense situations, I focus on background noise (fan, birds, people walking).
Try doing that for a while.
What are some of your techniques?
01
Jul 09
How to find your passion?
Every person in the world is good at something. The passion lives in the core of their soul. Sparks of motivation ignite when you think about it.
Ahhh The life If…
Wouldn’t it be nice to pursue your dreams? Having no fear to take challenges?
Kids always are in tune with their passion. Watch any number of them at the playground. Strong focus of the kids on their task outweigh any surrounding events(except ice cream trucks) 
. But as you grow older society tells a different story. Go to school, get a job, the white picket fence house yaddi-yada.
This was true for me. I wanted to be a fighter pilot, but my parents, family scolded otherwise. Rather, they geared me towards going to university and joining an account boring. After 4 years I realized that if I keep on this mediocre path then I will only get mediocre results. I want a passionate life. Thus I have to put in 110% to get 200% back. Life is only lived once and time is precious.
Imagine you awake tomorrow. Jump out of bed with electrifying energy. Butterflies fill your stomach with excitement as you head to work.15 hours of work just fly by. During the 15 hours, your mind is alert and exploding with ideas. Energy flows through your brain and onto your projects. You can’t believe its time to go home already.
Think its Rubbish-talk!
This is all rubbish-dream-big talk you say? For one second, just one, understand the power you hold in your hands to change your future. If you take just a small chance towards your passion then imagine what effects it will bring to you and the people in your life, then you will definitely take the challenge on.
locate your passion
What do you love?
what is your hobby or part time activity? Many successful business start out as a hobby and turn into a full stream business. When thinking of your hobbies try not to think about how to make money off it, just focus on the feeling of how motivated you are on tackling the problem.
Ask some hard questions:
Majority of the time, peoples motivation/reason for doing a task is removed from their core. For example, I know a friend who wants to become a doctor because of the money. You take money out of the equation and there goes his MD degree. That is short sighted. I have done a similar mistake with some business ventures and have always failed. The reason is because my motivation was not aligned with who I am. So ask yourself: a) Do you really enjoy doing what you do? b) can you see yourself doing this task if no one paid you anything?
Never settle.
I always thought what I knew what my passion was. I should…shouldn’t I because I live with myself. But I didn’t know what my passion was. I hated that. I remember loosing sleep over this. The important point is not to force it. Sometimes the answer’s are not obvious. However, the answers always appear when you least expect it. You just have to be open to them.
This is just some ways you can go about finding your passion. What are some of your ideas to find your true passion?
30
Jun 09
Small Moments of Pleasure
I love riding my bike. The warm summer breeze brushing against my skin. Sunlight beaming onto my head. Ah, so refreshing.
I rarely get to enjoy these moments often as I succumb to the daily pressure of office culture. Sit behind a desk and become a drone. Although I work for myself, sometimes it feels a bit mundane.
So one thing I do to rip myself away from the routine is just taking pleasure in my surroundings. Close my eyes, notice the birds chirping, watch the squirrels dance along the street. It helps me to maintain my balance.
I get this overwhelming feeling of awe and love for the world around me.
Try it yourself.
What are some things you do to enjoy life?
29
Jun 09
2 Simple Health Tips
How many times have you ate junk food? or got distracted from your diet? Beating up yourself isn’t worth it. Trust me.
Every week I wake up hoping to get back on my diet. But the junk food is so attractive. It’s like water in a dessert.
I always sneak in an oreo cookie or handful of cheetos after my dinner. One bite here and there all adds up at the end of the day.
So here is my hack list to get back on track.
Junk Food.
Everyone loves to bite in a delectable full chocolate chip cookie. MMMMMmmm. But this becomes a deadly habit after you stuff down maybe 3 or 5. Yikes!
The easiest way to turn this around is by replacing the junk food with a healthy snack. Take all the crap that you are putting into your system and throw it out( I don’t mean throw up but the junk in your cupboards). I know its hard.
Let it go.
Be free.
No run to the closest grocery store and buy tons of vegetables and fruits. Let fruits satisfy your need for sweetness and vegetables for something to nibble on.
For example, I eat cookies (as you can tell), I replaced them with celery. Celery is light and fun to nibble on. Wash it down with a glass of water and voila, a nice snack.
Workouts
Life gets busy. We all know that. Wakeup, drive to the office, take notes at meeting, close a deal, come back home, finish any work left and sleep. How does someone fit gym into their life? or get back into the groove.
First, go easy on yourself. Its ok if you miss a couple of work outs. Shit happens. More important is when you plan on going back. Dwell into the reason for you missing your workout. Does it take too much time? Is it boring?
I found my workouts to be a bit boring. So I started playing sports instead of lifting weights. I love playing soccer and basketball. The competitive nature and rush sets me free.
Point: Do a workout that is FUN, not a routine you read somewhere online.
Do you have any tips to share?
28
Jun 09
Control Your Anger in Simple ways
Breathing. I will say it once and I will say it again. Breathing is the best way to bring you back to your proper awareness.
You will get stuck in traffic for 5 hours, the anxiety will build up watching other cars move faster. Your mind will start a negative conversation with yourself. You will release that negativity on the next person you meet.
I have been a victim of anger many times. I live only 10 minutes away from my office, yet every time I see traffic, my mind automatically starts the anger talk. This concept could apply to any situation, standing in line, buying an item, getting junk email etc….
Control You Anger
The best tool to stop the mind, is to breath. Close your eyes, inhale a deep breath, count to 3 and exhale. Take note of scents around you as you inhale. Move your focus towards your shoulder, hands, back. Are they stiff? is your anger controlling your body posture.
Another good anger management way is to scream. Just scream without holding anything back. It does not have to make any sense. Just release that ball of energy. Make sure you do it in a safe comfortable environment so no one calls the cops
Go your own methods? Do share below.
27
Jan 09
How to live with your heart: Be free
I had always confined myself to the surrounding of my life. During my teen years, I was held back by my self-limiting belief of my weight, skin colour and insecurities. Like the majority of high-school students, I was traveling on a path of self discovery and exploration.
I remember distinctly in grade 11, when I highlighted my hair orange. The bright colour on my head screamed for attention. It was on a cold morning, after some long night, that I woke up and saw my hair. The person staring back at me was not who I was.
In that instant I realized that everything I ever seek or want lies within. All the power of self motivation and self direction is sitting right inside. It’s just that the social influences mute the voice of your heart to pour on through. The voice of doubt gains control of your mental microphone and dictates your actions.
Start speaking with your heart
It is not hard to change those thoughts or self images. Learn to become aware of what items you wish to change about yourself. The most important thing is to become AWARE of the thought process and actions inside your head.
Ways to become aware:
1) Tune into a passing sound. Turn off your mental chatter and tune into something outside you existence. Could be ambient noise of school children or the humming of your fan. Just loose yourself in that moment.
2) Journal Journal Journal and Journal some more. The only way to get to know who you are is by starting a dialogue with yourself. Become your own best friend.